Thank You For Everything ......
For many years now I have felt like outsiders have been taking undue advantage of my "FORGET AND MOVE ON" attitude. But recently when that feeling creeped in ma mind in context with my closed ones, I thought that it needed an extra attention.
I just realised that the feeling needed more introspection and a different angle or perspective of looking at. It was simple, whatever that we do we are selfish enough that we do it because it gives us happiness. The sorrow part is always the follow up of the "expectation" that creeps in our mind after we render a favour or help to someone or even ourselves.
Naaah!!! Dont wanna confuse you, but it is so obvious that whenever anyone asks us for any kindda favour, it is completely upto us that we either accept the responsibility of helping that person or simply reject it. Noone, Not a single person other than YOU, yourself can make you do something without your permission. The same logic was applicable to me.
All those outsiders for whom I have been doing favours to get back hatered in return, were just doing what their temperaments asked them to! They are born to be ungrateful, they cannot be good to anyone, may it be gaurav nikarge or sheetal poojari or preshita tamhane.or dheeraj salian ...or anyone else for that reason. It was my decision to help them during their journey with me, all because I have decided that whoever it is, when asks for favour I have to help them. Now noone forces me to do so but I just do it.
Now when it comes to my family and the close-to-my-heart people, I am selfish enough to love them selflessly!!! Confused again ?? Dont be, it is simple. It gives me pleasure and happiness when I see that smile on their face when I do something for them that they expect from me. Imagine yourself in their place. Isnt that a wonderful feeling when you expect something and you get it immediatly? Every human loves it! Even i do!! But my prorities are all set!!! It is always my loved ones before myself. And this is my decision, noone forced me to do this, Then today why am I even complaining when my favours are not returned ....just because I expected that they would be ... So again, my fault.
So then when I gave it a serious thought, I have come to a conclusion, BE GOOD is all that matters to me. And if that is the case I should not be expecting the same from people around me, because they may or maynot think the same way. So all I need to do now is to continue with what makes me happy with "No Strings Attached" concept, keep minimum emotional involvement in any person to whom I render favour or help or even Love !!!
Because Love makes you stronger, Attachment is all that pulls you down in life. So if you come in my life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, You have helped me grow emotionally, and I am really thankful to you for that. I just Love you for everything you have done for me or even everything you have NOT done for me.
I just realised that the feeling needed more introspection and a different angle or perspective of looking at. It was simple, whatever that we do we are selfish enough that we do it because it gives us happiness. The sorrow part is always the follow up of the "expectation" that creeps in our mind after we render a favour or help to someone or even ourselves.
Naaah!!! Dont wanna confuse you, but it is so obvious that whenever anyone asks us for any kindda favour, it is completely upto us that we either accept the responsibility of helping that person or simply reject it. Noone, Not a single person other than YOU, yourself can make you do something without your permission. The same logic was applicable to me.
All those outsiders for whom I have been doing favours to get back hatered in return, were just doing what their temperaments asked them to! They are born to be ungrateful, they cannot be good to anyone, may it be gaurav nikarge or sheetal poojari or preshita tamhane.or dheeraj salian ...or anyone else for that reason. It was my decision to help them during their journey with me, all because I have decided that whoever it is, when asks for favour I have to help them. Now noone forces me to do so but I just do it.
Now when it comes to my family and the close-to-my-heart people, I am selfish enough to love them selflessly!!! Confused again ?? Dont be, it is simple. It gives me pleasure and happiness when I see that smile on their face when I do something for them that they expect from me. Imagine yourself in their place. Isnt that a wonderful feeling when you expect something and you get it immediatly? Every human loves it! Even i do!! But my prorities are all set!!! It is always my loved ones before myself. And this is my decision, noone forced me to do this, Then today why am I even complaining when my favours are not returned ....just because I expected that they would be ... So again, my fault.
So then when I gave it a serious thought, I have come to a conclusion, BE GOOD is all that matters to me. And if that is the case I should not be expecting the same from people around me, because they may or maynot think the same way. So all I need to do now is to continue with what makes me happy with "No Strings Attached" concept, keep minimum emotional involvement in any person to whom I render favour or help or even Love !!!
Because Love makes you stronger, Attachment is all that pulls you down in life. So if you come in my life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, You have helped me grow emotionally, and I am really thankful to you for that. I just Love you for everything you have done for me or even everything you have NOT done for me.
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